Erotic Massage for Lovers: Sexual Touch To Arouse And Gratify Your Partner
Touch can heal wounds and draw couples closer together by showering love onto the parts of your lover’s body that store repressed emotions – and then setting them free. Erotic massage is an act of unconditional service to the one you love.
It communicates that you understand where your lover is coming from and accept them as they are, including their frailties and vulnerabilities. By first relaxing your partner in a safe space, you can then erotically arouse them to transcend illusions and reach the highest level of connection possible.
The Power of Sensual Massage
“As a society, we are touch deprived. We are taught that touch often is dangerous or something to fear, to be ashamed of,” says Amy McBain, sexual shaman and author of Intentional Orgasm: Changing The World One Orgasm At A Time. She adds that healthy touch in all relationship benefits our whole beings.
“Touch provides a way for each partner to surrender and be fully in the moment. It is through touch that everything else comes and is improved,” she says.
“Failure to thrive is just as real for adults who don't receive loving touch as it is for infants,” says intimacy coach Kendal Williams of tantrictransformation.com. She says that our souls chose to inhabit a physical body, and touch is therefore one of the essential ways we experience things in the physical realm.
Deepen Your Pleasure Through Self-Love
“I don't believe you can have a fully satisfying relationship with another until you have a fully satisfying relationship with yourself,” says McBain. You have to do your own self work – dark night of the soul work – so you know who you are, she says, before you can share yourself with someone else. And that includes getting in touch with your own sexual energy, which is source energy. An orgasm, she says, is the vehicle by which your soul came into physical existence, so any disconnect from your own orgasm and inherent divine sacred sexuality will result in a disconnect from others and a disconnect from the rest of your life.
“Our erotic lives are only a mirror of our other lives,” Williams says. Having a loving and accepting relationship with yourself first means that you’re compassionate toward yourself and don’t punish yourself for your humanness but instead embrace yourself and love deeper, she says.
“Through self love and acceptance, we gain a peace and confidence – and in this peace and confidence, we experience and love others at a more penetrating level,” Williams says.
Setting The Stage
“In tantric massage, the focus is on interconnecting everything. It is a flow – a dance,” says Williams. To set up for a massage and create a sacred space, the most important thing needed is the right internal state of being and the right intent for what we are giving and receiving.
“Physically, the room is typically either dimly lit or bright with sunshine, depending on the intent of what you are focusing on,” she says. “Some sacred spaces may be set up with altars, incense, music, candles and even protective boundaries such as a circle of salt or crystals placed in each corner of the space. Others may be simple and have only a blanket, pillow, candle and nature sounds.”
McBain also suggests using special music, essential oils, incense, sage, candles and heat to overwhelm the senses. She says to “clear the space before and after” and “set intentions into the space for the receiver”.
Circulate Sexual Energy With Massage Tricks
The basic massage techniques that we can use to give our partners pleasure, are firm strokes, soft strokes, feather strokes, breath and nail biting, says Ms. Williams. She adds: “Use warm oils or candles, ice, feathers, silk and fur. Be playful and don't second guess your intuition. Take it slow. You are making love to every inch of your partner through your conscious touch.”
With permission from your partner, Williams says, you may want to try prostate massage, G-spot massage, clitoral stimulation, oral pleasure or use a chosen toy.
The sexual shaman McBain does shamanic energy balancing massage that involves specific touches designed to evoke the energies of the earth – water, air and fire – and balance them within a person, activating energy sources for them.
Expressing Sensuality Through Your Whole Body
McBain suggests using your full body to balance your lover's energy fields. She says: “Lay your whole body on them to ground their earth energy. Rub your breasts and other body parts slowly, sensually to activate their water energy. Use your breath and a very light touch to activate their air energy. I also use my genitals on specific body parts, like my clitoris to their third eye, to bring in a balance of their divine feminine to create interesting energy currents.”
Williams also says that that in giving a massage, you are gifting the experience to someone else, so you should make it about them and not you.
“It's important to pay attention to what feels good and listen to your intuition on things,” she says. “Go slowly in whatever stroke you choose and with the part of your body you are using.”
Stimulating Your Beloved’s Erogenous Zones
Erotic tantric massage covers the whole body from toe to head, according to intimacy coach Williams. She explains: “I say toe to head because we start at the feet and move upward with purpose. Through the feet, we help relax and ground the whole being. We also tap into acupressure points that stimulate internal organs and help them function better. Feet and legs are also big erogenous zones for many people, especially women. Then, move up the body to the hips, buttocks, and lower back, massage firmly, slowly – teasing the skin with feathers. Light touch or breath can be very erotic.”
Knowing your partner's erogenous zones is helpful, Williams adds. Erotic tantric massages stimulate the genitals, she says, but does not focus in on the genitals, making it a dance of interweaving the whole body in an erotic fashion.
Some Final Thoughts
You can use massage to create excitement in an otherwise stale relationship and to set a trustworthy foundation if your relationship is new.
Erotic massage helps lovers meet each other's needs and bridge emotional distance. It’s a platform for keeping our promise to our partner – by including erotic movements that help them feel safe, seen and understood.
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