Since Halloween is drawing near and this is the time of year when the spirits are at their most active, it’s the perfect time to write about ghosts of all sorts. Many of us have been ghosted by guys who stop showing up or answering our messages. It has even happened to your Master Psychic, if you can believe it. But, hey, I got through it and so have many of my clients. I’d like to give you some tips in case you’re going through a ghosting right now or ever encounter a ghost of this common type.
Before I continue, though, I'd like to thank my clients on Instagram for their assistance with this piece. I conducted a brief survey asking my followers what they would do if a guy/girl ghosted them. To show my appreciation to all those who have contributed and are currently reading (that means you!), I have included a discount coupon at the bottom of this message.
Now, let the ghostbusting begin…
1. Don’t be alarmed. When something weird happens, it's easy to start severely judging and demeaning yourself, convinced that there must be something fundamentally wrong with you or your actions. Don't self-destruct even if you have done something wrong. You are human, and being human means being imperfect. Most of the time, a ghoster had distinct intentions from the door that you simply weren't aware of, and it doesn't matter how well you attempted to impress them, they’re still going to ghost you when they’re ready. It is difficult enough to be ghosted, so the last thing you want to do is be hard on yourself too. Instead, try to remain calm and reassure yourself that you did the best you could. If you meant anything to him, there is a chance that he may come back. And if you don't mean anything to him, he should simply sit quietly where he is in his little cubbyhole and let you be – so you can start the healing process and move on with your life.
2. Ghost him back. The best response to a ghost is to be a ghost too. It can be difficult to refrain from sending him an angry text message. Even if you always want the last word, try not to encourage that behavior. More than likely, chewing him out will be a waste of time. Instead, let him think you don't give a damn either. He probably expects you to reach out, chase him and be emotional about it. If you try to get in touch with a ghoster who doesn't answer, this will only make you feel worse. Please don’t give him the satisfaction of thinking that you’re sweating him. When you’re too concerned about why he hasn’t texted you, he may believe you’re desperate and don’t have a life apart from him. But you want him to believe the exact opposite. If he is a ghost, then poof! Just let him vanish. One thing I’m certain about is that if a man wants you, he will do everything in his power to keep you in his life.
3. Get back into you. Channel that anger and disappointment into something positive by getting back to doing the things you love. Before you met him, you were probably into something else, but sometimes we forget who we are when we're swept up in a romantic moment. The toxic circumstances of a failing relationship can blur our goals and ambitions. You are human, after all, so taking a moment to process your feelings is OK. When people harm us, it hurts. But try not to put too much energy into someone who doesn't give you the same amount of energy back. Put another way, a ghoster is not worthy of renting space in your head. So repurpose the negative energy and transform it into something positive and meaningful.
4. Be a ghostbuster. If he decides to reemerge randomly, as many ghosts do, call him out on it, and don't feel guilty about it, especially if you’ve been speaking with him for a reasonable amount of time. You don't have to scream and yell. Instead, simply tell him that if he isn't interested in a respectable relationship, he should just stay away. Remind him that you deserve better and that if ghosting is how he rolls, he should keep rolling on his merry way. Know your value, what you deserve and what you don’t deserve. Determine what you will and will not accept. Don't be afraid to tell him how you feel and bust his chops. Then end the conversation short. He will fight for your trust and respect if he truly values you.
5. Zap him. Yes, you read that right: Zap him! Post a sexy selfie on social media to stun him. They say a picture is worth a thousand words, so show him what he's missing. He is most certainly stalking your social media profiles if you have him on them and they’re not set to private. Showcase to him how you’re living your best life. Posting images of you having fun with friends, hanging out and participating in exciting activities will demonstrate to him how swiftly you’ve moved on with your life. Maybe take a pic of some exotic mixed drinks on the table so he can see that you’re not alone and stopping your life for anyone, especially him. If he felt even a smidgen for you, this will undoubtedly sting his heart and ego. Also, refrain from sharing vague comments and quotes on social media that he might take to be about him. This makes your narrative about him. Please don't make this about him.
6. Talk to me. Duh, right? But seriously, I asked my clients on Instagram what they should do if they’re ghosted, and one of them answered, "Go cry to Rachel about it, duh!" My clients and I thought that comment was hilarious, but it's real. My clients frequently ask for my help in communicating with spirits and banishing ghosters from their lives. So who you gonna call? Ghostbuster Master Psychic Rachel! OK, maybe that’s taking the joke a step too far. Still, if you’re having trouble dealing with being ghosted, please contact me or schedule a reading immediately. You are not alone in this, and I’m happy to assist you in overcoming this paranormal activity – just as I’m always here for you. Continue to be Blessed.
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